I can’t let it go

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“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart,
as working for the Lord, not for men.”
Colossians 3:23 (NIV)

Are you a control freak? I know that sounds harsh.

Do you like being in charge? Why yes, yes I do.


In Karen Ehman’s Let.It.Go book, she suggests maybe we’re taking God’s directions in Colossians 3:23 too  seriously:

“Aren’t we just being good church girls,
trying to serve Jesus by being in charge of it all?
Yep that’s it. We’re simply being careful and conscientious.”
Karen Ehman, Let. It. Go.

I can’t stop trying to be in charge of it all. Especially when it comes to my family.

We often confuse being in charge with being in control. In her book, Karen teaches us how to stop running the show and start walking in faith.

I love Karen’s style of writing. She includes humor, relating to us as a friend who is living the same day-to-day struggles as the rest of us busy women. I often think she’s been a “fly on the wall” in my own home. She also inspires us with her personal stories (the good and the bad), and countless biblical truths to apply to our lives.

At first I didn’t think I had trouble with control over my home. Boy was I in for a surprise! In Part 1, Why We Women Love to Run the Show, Karen challenged my doubt by highlighting the creative ways we try to control. Her examples of control’s clever disguises hit home (what a surprise, i’m an enabler). She teaches us what “I’ll do it my way” really means in our relationship with God. Karen also points us to God’s Word in Proverbs reminding us that it’s not our job to change our circumstances, it’s God’s job.

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”
Proverbs 19:21 (NIV)

Stop running the show. Karen gives us “switch-er-oo–s” to replace our “sometimes selfish line of thinking” with God’s truths. She gives several examples of “When you’re tempted to think (this)”, instead accept God’s interruptions and “Be reminded that God says (this)”. Start walking in faith.

“We need to experience the thrilling feeling of being “out of control” and loving it.”
Karen Ehman, Let. It. Go.

I love Karen’s practical way to apply God’s Word to my everyday messy life, but “loving” being out of control? I wasn’t sure about that.

In Part 2, Domestic Director or Tin-Pot Dictator, our book club came to quick agreement that Chapter 5, Micromanaging instead of Mothering, was a control issue we all faced. Actually a trust issue we all faced. Karen teaches us to take advice prayerfully and carefully, with practical steps to follow. She also applies her life experiences by mentoring us in “turning over the reins” of making choices for our children as they grow and mature through different age stages. Very helpful for many of us with teenagers. And if your daily race doesn’t allow time to stop running the show and start walking in faith, Karen gives us some great ideas for “putting the brakes on busy”.

In Part 3, How to Lose Control and Keep the Faith, Karen points us to God’s Word in 1 Thessalonians:

“Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances,
for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NLT)

I love this verse challenge that Melissa Taylor, from Proverbs 31, posted in her online study of Karen’s book. She challenged us to fill in the blanks of the above verse with our name. Then for the next 48 hours be intentional on being joyful (despite your circumstances), praying a lot (even when you don’t feel like it), and remembering to be thankful (despite your circumstances).

Kim, always be joyful. Kim, never stop praying.
Kim, be thankful in all circumstances.
Kim, this is God’s will for you. Kim, you belong to Christ Jesus.

Let. It. Go. was a “thrilling ride” in itself. Thank you, Karen, for a fun and inspiring read. I’m praying to let go, “Let God”, and to “love” being out of control! I highly recommend women everywhere do the same!

**update 06/17/15 – The e-book version of Let It Go is on sale for $2.99 right now – grab it while you can!

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24 thoughts on “I can’t let it go

  1. Sounds like a book I should add to my to-read list. Surrendering control is a challenge for me. I have to choose to let go on an ongoing basis.

  2. Hi Kim! I’ve heard good things about this book and am thinking it needs to shuffle its little way onto my “to read” list. :-) Loved this example and am going to use it –> “Kim, always be joyful. Kim, never stop praying.
    Kim, be thankful in all circumstances.
    Kim, this is God’s will for you. Kim, you belong to Christ Jesus.”
    Good review, sweet friend. #livefreeThursday

  3. I loved this book too, Kim. (Funny that I just posted about it too!) I bought it on a fluke, taking advantage of a one-day amazon sale, and I was so glad I did! She had me in stitches, and I really needed the book’s message too. :-)

  4. Kim, I joke with my sister-in-law that I will get Karen’s books for us: Let it Go for her, and Keep it Shut for me! Thanks for the review! #LiveFree

  5. I also enjoy Karen’s writing style. Lots of humor. Control freak? Me? Nah! :) Maybe I should read it. I’m not sure I’m ready to cross that bridge though.

  6. I love her writing, and yours Kim, and am so grateful for your review since I didn’t even know this book existed! lol
    As for the loving being out of control part, my mood disorder forces me to go with the flow a lot more than I’d like but sometimes it’s a gift I didn’t know was waiting for me. Means I automatically just hand the moment over to God… and He turns the unhealthy into the healthy again.
    Great post, girl! Visiting and sending hugs from the #RaRaLinkup today :)

  7. Kim, I love Karen’s way of speaking friend to friend. Though she does have a tendency to step on my toes with her words. : ) Thank you, Kim, for reminding me that my control issues are really trust issues and for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )

  8. Hi Kim,
    Great book review! Although I’m more a quiet, timid person (most of the time) I should do some self-examination on that particular attribute. I’ve had enough control freaks in my life to last me through eternity! I’d best be sure I’m not being hypocritical in my own life!! Thank you so much for sharing this and may God’s peace and love be forever with you. :) Jodee

  9. I agree with you. I love Karen’s writing style – so fun and practical! This is a book I need to read again and again, since I am a ‘work-in-progress’ control freak:) Love ya Kim!

  10. I need this book! Loved this quote!
    “Aren’t we just being good church girls, trying to serve Jesus by being in charge of it all? Yep that’s it. We’re simply being careful and conscientious.” Karen Ehman, Let. It. Go.

    Thanks for sharing this. I am stopping by from Reflect.

    • Hi Jann, it’s a great book! And thanks for letting me know about your Reflect linkup. Have a great day!

  11. Sounds great for me!!! I’m a little control freak! That would be a great book to read this summer. Thanks for sharing this helpful and encouraging book in Words of Comfort Link Up! Hope to see you next Wednesday! Blessings

  12. Really great review! I find myself wanting to take control over things. It’s an area in my life where God continues to humble me. Thank you for sharing!

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